• Courtney McLane Mize

Five Unique Ways To Include Relatives In Your Wedding

Hello hello everybody! Happy Wedding Wednesday to you all! I’m here with a brand new wedding topic for you today and hope you are ready to dive right in! Today we are talking about how to include relatives in your wedding! I know it can seem overwhelming thinking about how to make everyone feel included on your big day, but trust me, this doesn’t have to be as stressful as you think. We all know about plugging in siblings as bridesmaids or groomsmen, that’s easy. But what but what our step-parents, nieces and nephews, or cousins that might not be part of the bridal party, but definitely deserve a special place on our big day?

Here are five unique ways to help your relatives be a part of your wedding!

Flower girls and ring bearers. This one may be obvious, but if you have nieces, nephews, godchildren, or sweet baby cousins that you want to have in your wedding, assign them this

role! Every wedding party needs at least one flower girl and one ring bearer, so give your littles a job to do by asking them to walk down the aisle on your big day. More often than not, kids will be thrilled to play such a special role in your wedding…and get a few seconds of major attention from everyone in the audience.

***Another idea, ask grandmother’s or great-grandmother’s to be the flower girls. This is a new trend that is so heart-warming and precious, and a great alternative to having children in the wedding if that’s what you’re looking for!

Ushers. This is something I had not even thought about until my wedding coordinator asked me, “Who will be ushering your family down the aisle?”. My brothers were not groomsman in my wedding, so having them

serve as ushers was a great way to include them, and make sure that no one in my family had to walk alone! All three of my brother’s ushered someone down the aisle. If you don’t have brothers, take this as an opportunity to involve others in your family that you are close with, that might not otherwise play a role in your big day. Uncles, cousins, step-siblings, nephews, any of them can easily walk arm-in-arm with a pretty lady down the aisle!

Guest book attendants. Now this might not be one that you’ve thought of! Nowadays, guests books are everything from physical books to wooden plaques that will eventually be hanging on the living room wall of the happy couple. Either way, the bride and groom want their faily and friends to sign their guest book and leave them some love that they can look back on for years to come. Having someone greet your guests as they arrive and make sure people aren’t forgetting to sign the guest book is a perfect way to include special relatives! This is an important job that won’t cause anyone to miss any part of your ceremony or reception. I say it’s a win-win, am I right?

Officiant. We actually had Tyler’s oldest brother officiate our wedding, and that was really special! We knew that we didn’t want a standard, civil ceremony type message and really wanted to incorporate as much love and Jesus as we could in a short amount of time! We

were so happy to have someone close to us officiate during our ceremony, and it made

the entire message feel so personal and meaningful. Now if you have someone in your family that you would want to officially label you as “husband and wife”, don’t worry, they don’t need to be a priest or pastor. You can get certified online through several different organizations if you want to officiate a wedding. The process is quick, painless, and affordable! This is such a great way to include someone you love in the most important part of your big day.

First look. I know a lot of brides do a first look with their fiance’s, but Tyler and I didn’t do that. We wanted to save that moment for our ceremony and literally didn’t see each other past 10:30 AM the day of our wedding! Instead, I did however, do two alternative first looks. Now all my sisters with blended families, I hope you can relate to this! I love my dad, and I love my step-dad, but trying to decide how I could share special moments with each of them on my wedding day was a little difficult. I didn’t want either dad to feel left out, or like one was stepping on the others toes, but I HAD to make sure I had special moments with each of

them. My step-dad has been in my life since I was 15. He watched me hysterically bawl over the first boy I ever broke up with, he pinned boutonnieres on all my prom dates, and heard about all the drama of the men that came in and out of my life post-college. He has seen me through the most important moments and I couldn’t imagine not including him in my big day. But my dad is my dad. The only two things I had decided on before I ever even met Tyler were the songs I was going to play while my dad walked me down the aisle and danced with me at my reception. I didn’t want to make my dad feel like I was taking away from his role in either of those moments by splitting them with another man. So what the heck do you do when you have two dads that you love as much as this?! First looks. I wrote each of my dad’s a letter

and did two separate first looks, one with each of them. These first looks are one of the most vivid memories of my wedding day. Both moments were tear-filled and so special, and the pictures of me with each of my dads’ are something that I will cherish forever. If you have a blended family, consider doing two first looks and making sure you have a few minutes alone with each of the men that are important to you! Now like I said, a lot of women do a first look with their soon-to-be husbands, which is totally fine! But there’s no limit on how many “first looks” you can have on your wedding day. Maybe you have a grandpa or an uncle that are just as important as your fiancé or your dad. Let your first look be a chance to share those intimate, pre-ceremony moments with the people you love the most, regardless of their actual role in your wedding day activities.

I hope these five tips help you see that you CAN involve as many people as you want on your wedding day, easily, with no stress. As always, share this post with your favorite brides and if you haven’t already, make sure to subscribe to the blog so that you never miss a Wedding Wednesday!



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