• Courtney McLane Mize


Dear Teenager,

Hi sweet girl. How are you doing? Really, how are you doing? Things are crazy these days. Between school and homework, practicing for the school play, training for lacrosse tryouts, and going to church, you barely have time to breathe. Not to mention all the drama at school. AND your parents being on your case about e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. I know how you feel. I used to be a teenager, not that long ago. And you know what? It’s all going to be okay. Your friends will fight, make up, fight again, and makeup again, and that’s alright. I know it’s awkward to be on the bus when your favorite people are going through a phase of not talking to each other, but you have to let it roll. Keep being your smiley, sweet, happy self. They will work it out eventually. All that homework your teachers keep giving you, it isn’t stupid. 99.9% of the time it feels like it is, but trust me, it isn’t that bad. One day you will realize that all the assignments you stayed up so late finishing taught you discipline, which is a very important characteristic to have. You need to know what it means to work hard for something. Oh and all the boys that have come in to (or out of) the picture? You will look back on your memories with them and genuinely laugh because the bottom line is, boys are dumb and take a long, LONG time to grow up. The ones who love you are a reminder from the world that you are one pretty awesome chick. The ones that don’t, the ones you wish did, the ones who break your heart, they are reminders from God that you are worth so, so much more than what you think you are. They are God’s way of telling you, “This boy isn’t ready to handle the love that comes out of that amazing, beautiful, strong heart I have given you.” Don’t let those tears fall for too long pretty girl, because trust me, one day a man will walk into your life who will make you realize why it didn’t last forever with anyone else. All the times you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, know that you are not the only girl feeling that way. Tell yourself that you are beautiful and you are loved, because you are! Do not let the world take that away from you. Mom and dad also love you. A lot. So much it is ridiculous. I know they are annoying, and there are days when they make you cry, but remember that there is no rule-book for being a parent, so cut them a little slack.

You have the brightest future ahead of you. You will do things, meet people, and go places that you haven’t even dreamed of yet. How exciting is that?! You have your whole life ahead of you, so don’t rush past these years. As much as you can’t wait to be “an adult”, please wait. Please don’t grow up too fast. Try to understand that every tear, every laugh, every fight, every Friday night football game, every time you fall down, and every time you reach a milestone, everything that you are going through is part of your story. Embrace that. Soak up all the time with your family that you can, save your hilarious Snapchats to your phone, let every tear that rolls down your cheek roll off your back too, because you will never get these moments back. You will never get to repeat these days.

You are worth all the stars in the sky, loved to the moon and back, more beautiful than anything else on this Earth. And everything will work out, I promise.


A girl who used to be a teenager